just the random thoughts of a random southern woman...
Friday, July 23, 2010
self-reflection
My trust is not easily won and then not easily lost. Once lost, however, it's near impossible to win back. I don't think this is a good thing. If I know this about myself, why can I not change it?
is this one of those posts where you can't write fully about a thing? too revealing of others maybe? too potentially hurtful to other people, maybe even people who hurt you? please forgive my presumption if i'm off base. if i'm not, i hope things get better soon. i like janna's suggestion. might try it myself.
I am the same way. I like everyone I meet. A person has to work very hard for me to dislike them. But once they do, I cannot change back. I don't like this about myself. I can forgive a person's actions, but that doesn't mean I will ever trust or like that person again. I guess it's the old "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me..." I wish I could change this about myself, but I can't.
I have a feeling something must have happened to you recently, to make you feel this way. I'm sorry to hear that.
Test yourself. See what happens when you're more open. Experiment by trusting someone right off... and then easily forgiving another.
ReplyDeleteis this one of those posts where you can't write fully about a thing? too revealing of others maybe? too potentially hurtful to other people, maybe even people who hurt you? please forgive my presumption if i'm off base. if i'm not, i hope things get better soon. i like janna's suggestion. might try it myself.
ReplyDeleteI am the same way. I like everyone I meet. A person has to work very hard for me to dislike them. But once they do, I cannot change back. I don't like this about myself. I can forgive a person's actions, but that doesn't mean I will ever trust or like that person again. I guess it's the old "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me..." I wish I could change this about myself, but I can't.
ReplyDeleteI have a feeling something must have happened to you recently, to make you feel this way. I'm sorry to hear that.
Gosh, I don't know that I want to change that about myself ........... Trust is something that has to be earned. Betrayal is hard to forgive.
ReplyDeleteIt helps me to ask what I'm needing to protect by withholding trust.
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